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[kimmi]

I had a friend once tell me when I got engaged, don't do anything in your first year of marriage that you aren't willing to do for the rest of your life.  I didn't get married but that piece of advice has stuck with me!

[Dexter Morgan]

I had a friend once tell me when I got engaged, don't do anything in your first year of marriage that you aren't willing to do for the rest of your life.  I didn't get married but that piece of advice has stuck with me!

Make sure you follow through on that. If you do too much nice stuff for them, they'll expect it forever. Then you lose your individuality. It's like babysitting everyday the rest of your life. 

[kimmi]

Make sure you follow through on that. If you do too much nice stuff for them, they'll expect it forever. Then you lose your individuality. It's like babysitting everyday the rest of your life. 

Yes I know this.  Probably why I'm still single! 

[~vxn~]

i'll not likely ever marry.  i could stay where i am forever though.  i do more than i did the first year we were together and would gladly do it forever--but what about the men?  they should put that kind of effort in forever, too. 

mine is a far better cook than i.... the beasties all voted me out of the kitchen and have "man-time" with daddy and the grill. 

[damfast]

i agree.  once married is enough.  I like doing whatever I want whenever I want, and with no explanations.

[Dexter Morgan]

Yes I know this.  Probably why I'm still single! 

The best advice I can give you is don't do it!!!!!! 

[Dexter Morgan]

i'll not likely ever marry.  i could stay where i am forever though.  i do more than i did the first year we were together and would gladly do it forever--but what about the men?  they should put that kind of effort in forever, too. 

mine is a far better cook than i.... the beasties all voted me out of the kitchen and have "man-time" with daddy and the grill. 

When things are working out, don't change a thing. The only difference between your situation now,and being married, is a peice of paper. Many a good relationship has gone down in flames, because of marriage talk or actually getting married. If it aint broke don't fix it. 

[Dexter Morgan]

i agree.  once married is enough.  I like doing whatever I want whenever I want, and with no explanations.

You lose your individuality when you get married. You never have you time. It becomes routine. 

[Palehorse]

 

[kimmi]

You lose your individuality when you get married. You never have you time. It becomes routine. 

I see that as a choice.  You don't have to lose your individuality unless you allow that.  Again, probably why I'm still single. 

I don't want to stay single forever.  I would like to have kids someday soon.  I'm a bit old fashioned in that I would like to have them with a husband but I guess if it gets to the point where I had better hurry up, well then I guess I'll have to reconsider my thinking.

[Dexter Morgan]

I see that as a choice.  You don't have to lose your individuality unless you allow that.  Again, probably why I'm still single. 

I don't want to stay single forever.  I would like to have kids someday soon.  I'm a bit old fashioned in that I would like to have them with a husband but I guess if it gets to the point where I had better hurry up, well then I guess I'll have to reconsider my thinking.

Sounds like a good plan to me. You do have to make sacrifices when you're married. It's give and take.It can't be all about you, and it can't be all about him either. Marriage is a union. For the most part we do stuff my husbands way. I don't complain much, because he makes $ 100 grand a year, I have what I want and I'm comfortable. We were dirt poor when we got married. We've had alot of bad things happen, but we've always gotten through it together. We've always loved each other. We've got us, and nothing else matters. 

[pariann]

wanna loan him out for a year?

[Dexter Morgan]

wanna loan him out for a year?

Sorry, he's all mine LOL!!! 

[me]

Sounds like a good plan to me. You do have to make sacrifices when you're married. It's give and take.It can't be all about you, and it can't be all about him either. Marriage is a union. For the most part we do stuff my husbands way. I don't complain much, because he makes $ 100 grand a year, I have what I want and I'm comfortable. We were dirt poor when we got married. We've had alot of bad things happen, but we've always gotten through it together. We've always loved each other. We've got us, and nothing else matters. 

Thats great Dexter.  My first two marriages were all about him and now I have found someone who realizes things go both ways.  We are, and have been, together for 24/7 for close to 8 years now and still like being together and doing things together.  He forgives my weaknesses and I forgive his and we work as a team. 

[Dexter Morgan]

Thats great Dexter.  My first two marriages were all about him and now I have found someone who realizes things go both ways.  We are, and have been, together for 24/7 for close to 8 years now and still like being together and doing things together.  He forgives my weaknesses and I forgive his and we work as a team. 

That's exactly how it should be. Teamwork so to speak LOL!!!! Alot goes in to making a marriage work. There will always be rough spots, but you work through them. Our first year was a nightmare.  We separated 10 or 15 times LOL!!! We finally learned,that you don't just walk out, every time you disagree. You talk about it, and work through it. I know him so well I can read his mind. I finish his sentences for him. It's kind of like Radar and Col. Potter on M.A.S.H. I always know what he's thinking, and it's not always nice thoughts. I'll look at him and say "Don't go there." Then he says" How the hell do you do that?"  I just laugh and say" I told you I can read your mind." LOL!!!!