Planning on some fun stuff to do with friends to take my mind off of the "adventure" of cancer and giving them the opportunity to have some input and feel good about making a difference. Really, there are people that I have known for YEARS who feel so inadequate about what to do for me--I tell them that a visit or a phone call is all that I need but they always want to do more. I usually tell them that I accept checks, cash and money orders but they want to offer something a bit more substantial (cheap skates!)
One idea is the hat party--everyone brings a hat and we have hors doerves and cheap champagne.
Another idea is a spa party--we give each other pedicures, manicures, do makeup and hair and everyone leaves the house looking like $3 drag queen.
Movie night--that's always fun. Popcorn and snowcaps and all that crap.
What ideas do you have?
LMAO! A $3 drag queen! That's hilarious.
I mentioned this in another thread, but a friend of mine, who was going through a rocky divorce had a slumber party for the girls. We rented a bunch of movies to make us cry and had tons of junk food (anything you can imagine), lots of alcohol (of course). Some of the ladies did the spa like thing, some jumped in the hot tub and the rest sat around either playing games or giggling and talking about whatever. Then we pigged out on junkfood, got entirely too drunk (which lead to some really great story telling) and cried together watching movies. It was great!
Now THAT'S what I'm talkin' bout!
I wanna have fun--let all my buddies know that I'm still the same Tallu--I don't want to be treated with kid gloves--just want the companionship, you know.
Laying low on the booze, though. I'm fat enough as it is with all of the lack of exercise I get. Plus, it don't mix well with the meds--DAMMIT! I sure do miss my martinis! LOL :razz:
Oooh....hard to compete with any of THOSE ideas. All very excellant spirit boosters!!!
Something that my husband's cousin did for my sister-in-law was provide her with random "notes from the heart".
Every time my sister-in-law went in for chemo, she'd come home to a scavenger hunt of post-it notes...on the coffee maker, bathroom vanity, nightstand, on the pomegrante juice in the fridge, etc..
It was something that sister anticipated & looked forward to...you could certainly tweak the delivery. :smile:
Jumping on your wagon from another thread...
Maybe suggest that your friends & loved ones throw an "Organic Foods" party!!!???!!! Care packages are always fun to receive & this could help you stock your cupboards with eats that will be helpful to your recovery mission. :yes:
FAB ideas, Sunny! You rock! :yes:
I was just going to say the same thing! :smile:
Good minds... ;)
Along similar lines with the spa party...maybe a "R & R" party.
Everyone can bring & share something that helps them to relax and share with you?!?
For example, some folks enjoy a nice, long bubble bath...others have a favorite scented candle that puts them in that "special place"...possibly a cd of nature sounds?!??
Quote from: Sunny on July 06, 2007, 04:42:42 PM
Along similar lines with the spa party...maybe a "R & R" party.
Everyone can bring & share something that helps them to relax and share with you?!?
For example, some folks enjoy a nice, long bubble bath...others have a favorite scented candle that puts them in that "special place"...possibly a CD of nature sounds?!??
I like that idea too. I'd even add one more thing. It's an "affirmation" exercise that I learned in one of the courses which I was required to take for my job. Buy a pack or two of index cards. You can get the plain white ones or the pretty decorated ones, which ever appeals. Have each person take a card to total the number of people at your party. On the back of each, they write the name of someone who is at the party and on the front 5 positive things about that person. If they know you, but not each other, it serves as an icebreaker too. The comments can be as superficial as "has a great smile" to something more personal and uplifting. They DO NOT write their own name on the cards. When every one is done the cards are given to each person. When we did it, I placed mine in a ziploc baggy, which I kept in my purse. Whenever I needed a "pick me up" or a glimpse at how other people see me, those cards were really appreciated. A lot of times, when we're not feeling so strong, knowing that someone else sees us as a pillar of strength...helps.
Oh, I like that! Unfortunately a lot of my friends may view it as kinda cheesey.
I seem to attract the friends who have the "Let's Get Ur Dun" mentality.
They wanna march in, give me some stuff that they think I'll need. Food, scrub my shower, give me a kiss and get back to their lives.
Not that this is a bad thing to do.......don't get me wrong--but I would like some personal fun time with them.
I just feel guilty to ask because they all have families, jobs, commitments, etc. and I don't feel that I should be their sole priority so I am grateful for all they do for me!
Quote from: PIYA on July 06, 2007, 05:10:20 PM
I like that idea too. I'd even add one more thing. It's an "affirmation" exercise that I learned in one of the courses which I was required to take for my job. Buy a pack or two of index cards. You can get the plain white ones or the pretty decorated ones, which ever appeals. Have each person take a card to total the number of people at your party. On the back of each, they write the name of someone who is at the party and on the front 5 positive things about that person. If they know you, but not each other, it serves as an icebreaker too. The comments can be as superficial as "has a great smile" to something more personal and uplifting. They DO NOT write their own name on the cards. When every one is done the cards are given to each person. When we did it, I placed mine in a ziploc baggy, which I kept in my purse. Whenever I needed a "pick me up" or a glimpse at how other people see me, those cards were really appreciated. A lot of times, when we're not feeling so strong, knowing that someone else sees us as a pillar of strength...helps.
He didn't like the casserole
And he didn't like my cake.
He said my biscuits were too hard...
Not like his mother used to make.
I didn't perk the coffee right
He didn't like the stew,
I didn't mend his socks
The way his mother used to do.
I pondered for an answer
I was looking for a clue.
Then I turned around and smacked him
Like his mother used to do.
OK--taking Sunny's advice--gonna have a head-shaving party. If I let it continue at this rate I'm gonna look like Riff-Raff from The Rocky Horror Picture Show :eek:
Too early for Halloween--so.............
the clipping will commence--I'll let ya'all know when. Wish I had a webcam--wouldn't that be fun! LOL
I am sure you will embrace it wholeheartedly!!!
Although it'll take some adjusting, just think about how LIBERATING it will be...no need to blow dry, curl, hair spray, straighten, fluff, poof, flatten...
You are beautiful & that's all that matters.
:flwr:
:smitten:
Thanks, dahling--*sniff*
I just thought I'd share this picture with you, TD...when my sister-in-law was going thru her chemo, my husband shaved his head in tribute. This photo was taken a month before her double masectomy. We call it "The 3 Stooges". The 3rd stooge is their 93 year-old g-pa. :smile:
Oh, Sunny--LOVE IT!
GET YOUR ORDERS IN!!!!
It will be time to harvest the sassafras leaves for my famous, homemade file powder soon!
This stuff is great--you can thicken up a bathtub full of gumbo with just a teaspoon of this stuff--it's nothing like that horrid brown gunk you buy at the grocery store.
It's a beautiful, deep green color with a sparkling flavor.
Who wants some? :biggrin:
Sassafras? I love sassafras tea but you can't buy the root anymore. :( The only time I get it now is when we go to Pow Wow's and they always have sugar in it and I'd prefer it without but I get it anyway and suffer the sweet just to have some.
Well, I have about 58 sassafras trees on my property (was twice that pre-Katrina :rolleyes:) and I can dig up a root for you! It tastes just like root beer. Well, rootbeer is made from sassafras root--DUH! I'm sure you already know that! :stupid:
Quote from: tallulahdahling on August 11, 2007, 03:58:16 PM
Well, I have about 58 sassafras trees on my property (was twice that pre-Katrina :rolleyes:) and I can dig up a root for you! It tastes just like root beer. Well, rootbeer is made from sassafras root--DUH! I'm sure you already know that! :stupid:
I appreciate the offer but I will have to admit I don't do well with the root, never figured out how much to use and how long to boil it....lol Last time I made some from the root I had to water it down big time. I ended up with about 3 gal from a 2qt pan. :o I think I not only used too much root but might have boiled it just a tad too long. :rolleyes:
Yeah, there is some technique involved and it is a tedious process--it's easier just to buy the stuff. But you wouldn't believe the old timers who go to a lot of trouble to cook it down for their home remedies and stuff. It's amazing what these people do just to cure hiccups!
I trade my file powder with a lot of them and they give me homemade remedies, bread, casseroles; one guy even mowed my lawn for me!
Sounds like a good trade, especially the yard mowing...
Quote from: Sunny on August 02, 2007, 10:22:58 AM
I just thought I'd share this picture with you, TD...when my sister-in-law was going thru her chemo, my husband shaved his head in tribute. This photo was taken a month before her double masectomy. We call it "The 3 Stooges". The 3rd stooge is their 93 year-old g-pa. :smile:
That is the absolutely sweetest gesture. What a loving and kind thing to do with and for her and grandpa is a cutie! ;D
That was a great gesture of support, wasn't it? Nice to know there are folks out there who really "get it" you know?
Quote from: tallulahdahling on August 16, 2007, 07:30:16 PM
That was a great gesture of support, wasn't it? Nice to know there are folks out there who really "get it" you know?
Yes...my husband had/has an excellant emotional & spiritual connection with his sister -- which is very difficult for him to ascertain with most folks. He would've done anything to support her.
He's an angel! :wings:
Just got a "fun" package from my cousin......a silkish gown and matching robe (gots some leopard print on it--MEOW!) and a new Stephen King novel; some coconut body scrub with a loofah made from real fibers--kinda like a soft mop--it's neat; earrings, vanilla tea, and a beautiful photo of a crocus her brother took.
Isn't that sweet? It's sooooo nice to be loved.
CYA--off to the bath :biggrin:
I've been invited to the symphony tonight! What the hell do I wear? I don't exactly have a "symphonic" wardrobe--LOL! :wink:
Taking advantage of this "crispy" morning to bake some bread and use up some of those pecans! Gotta hurry cuz this afternoon the high is supposed to be 77 :rolleyes:
It's hard to get into the spirit of the holidays when your wardrobe still includes shorts and flip flops! :biggrin: :sun:
MIL sent me an adorable hat--it's red and made of a really soft, loopy kind of material. Kind of looks Auntie Mame ish --LOL
It is truly me! :yes:
Hubby is taking off for his annual duck hunting trip this Friday and I get to assemble my chickies for a girl get together!
Can't wait--it's always a blast. Last year our theme was M&M --martinis and movies.
Don't know what this years theme will be---ideas anyone? ;D
You could always do a M&G night (martinis and gossip) and throw a couple of movies in for good measure... :biggrin:
:think: :idea3: Maybe you could assemble some friends, and show off your peachfuzz. LMOA!!! :wink: :smitten:
Quote from: me on January 14, 2008, 08:16:11 PM
You could always do a M&G night (martinis and gossip) and throw a couple of movies in for good measure... :biggrin:
Excellent idea, dahling--I'm gonna throw that idea at them--Lord knows I need to catch up on the local gossip--I've been outta the loop :-\
Quote from: Dexter Morgan on January 14, 2008, 11:08:55 PM
:think: :idea3: Maybe you could assemble some friends, and show off your peachfuzz. LMOA!!! :wink: :smitten:
:eek:
I do want to
keep their friendship, you know!
Quote from: tallulahdahling on January 15, 2008, 01:09:23 PM
:eek:
I do want to keep their friendship, you know!
:biggrin:
Had my "chickie" party last night.
Invited all my best chickies over for an evening of fun and festiveness. We're calling it Swampapalooza '08!
We had a BLAST!
Got down to 18 degrees by midnight but we didn't notice -- having far too much fun!
My face still hurts from laughing all night!
DAMN I needed it! :smitten:
Glad you had a good time tallu. Girls get togethers are soooo much fun. :yes:
They are fun! I'm sooooooooo glad we didn't take pics! Lord knows where they would end up--~Giggle~
I like palling around with my fellow estrogen buddies! 3 of them have little kids so this was the first time in a long while that they had the opportunity to get out of the house and do "adult" stuff.
One fell asleep and spent the night -- damn, I can still hear her snoring :biggrin:
was reading thru this thread.....and wondered....what ever happened to Sunny?
Glad you enjoyed your party Tallulah. I am sure you needed it. I admire you for being a strong woman during all this and hope nothing but the best for you.
Quote from: tallulahdahling on January 20, 2008, 09:14:25 AM
Had my "chickie" party last night.
Invited all my best chickies over for an evening of fun and festiveness. We're calling it Swampapalooza '08!
We had a BLAST!
Got down to 18 degrees by midnight but we didn't notice -- having far too much fun!
My face still hurts from laughing all night!
DAMN I needed it! :smitten:
Sounds like an awesome time was had by one and all. :yes: I'm glad you had fun T. My face never hurts from laughing or smiling, my many years of grinning, and smirking has made it tough LOL!!! :biggrin:
Quote from: smokeykat on January 20, 2008, 01:56:32 PM
was reading thru this thread.....and wondered....what ever happened to Sunny?
Glad you enjoyed your party Tallulah. I am sure you needed it. I admire you for being a strong woman during all this and hope nothing but the best for you.
Thanks, girl. This place has given me a much-needed place to vent and I sure do appreciate the opportunity to do that! And, appreciate people like you for all of your support.
Sunny moved into the working girl mode and her job leaves her no time to play on the web, unfortunately. I miss her a bunch -- she really was "Sunny" you know?
I need more parties. Maybe I can be a cancer-support party planner? Why not? :biggrin:
Quote from: Dexter Morgan on January 20, 2008, 03:59:07 PM
Sounds like an awesome time was had by one and all. :yes: I'm glad you had fun T. My face never hurts from laughing or smiling, my many years of grinning, and smirking has made it tough LOL!!! :biggrin:
Just had two of my girlz call me and say how much fun they had last night. More fun than with any man, one of them said--~Giggle~ Must have been a LONG time for her, poor baby--LOL
Quote from: tallulahdahling on January 20, 2008, 05:41:27 PM
Just had two of my girlz call me and say how much fun they had last night. More fun than with any man, one of them said--~Giggle~ Must have been a LONG time for her, poor baby--LOL
:rotfl: :rotfl:
Quote from: tallulahdahling on January 20, 2008, 05:39:50 PM
Thanks, girl. This place has given me a much-needed place to vent and I sure do appreciate the opportunity to do that! And, appreciate people like you for all of your support.
Sunny moved into the working girl mode and her job leaves her no time to play on the web, unfortunately. I miss her a bunch -- she really was "Sunny" you know?
I need more parties. Maybe I can be a cancer-support party planner? Why not? :biggrin:
I think you'd make a great cancer-support party planner. If anybody can make cancer fun it's you T.
Why thank you! I think :spooked: LOL
Is this the fun place? :)
Quote from: joski on January 23, 2008, 08:35:31 PM
Is this the fun place? :)
The Zone is the best place on the web for fun. :welcome2:
Quote from: joski on January 23, 2008, 08:35:31 PM
Is this the fun place? :)
Yep you've come to the right place... :yes:
Hi Joski!
We do our damnedest to have fun around here! Welcome to Tallulah's Tales on the Zone!
Kiss, kiss,
Tallu
Gettin ready for Fat Tuesday! I'm gonna take the train to NOLA Monday and visit some friends down there.
Gotta work on my bead collection and visit my favorite Voodoo shop!
Ooooh...the French Quarter, TD?? Good times!!!
Can't go to NO without trying a Hand Grenade (http://www.tropicalisle.com/shop/oneandonly.html) or a Pat O'Brien's Hurricane! (http://www.patobriens.com/hurricane.html)
Actually, the French Quarter is a sewer. The only way to celebrate Mardi Gras in the Quarter is from a balcony. GAWD it's awful--what a stench!
The train arrived at 11:20 am-ish Monday. My fab friends picked me up in a horse-drawn carriage and we went and had some drinks at an outdoor cafe nearby. Then we took the carriage to the ferry and went to their house where I unpacked and redressed to go to a neighborhood Lundi Gras gala.
That was fun! Great food and music and no gang warfare!
We then made way for the Proteus and Orpheus Krewe parades in Uptown. I had my picture taken with a Bette Davis look-a-like and then she puked on my shoes. WHAT A DUMP! :biggrin:
Party, party--grab some beads and try to make it home in one piece. There was one stabbing and someone was injured in a shooting while we tried to make our way outta there. My train left at 8:20 this morning so I missed the Krewe of Zulu parade but I was already over it anyway.
I hate to say it, but Mardi Gras just ain't what it used to be. :no:
Quote from: tallulahdahling on February 05, 2008, 03:24:04 PM
Actually, the French Quarter is a sewer. The only way to celebrate Mardi Gras in the Quarter is from a balcony. GAWD it's awful--what a stench!
The train arrived at 11:20 am-ish Monday. My fab friends picked me up in a horse-drawn carriage and we went and had some drinks at an outdoor cafe nearby. Then we took the carriage to the ferry and went to their house where I unpacked and redressed to go to a neighborhood Lundi Gras gala.
That was fun! Great food and music and no gang warfare!
We then made way for the Proteus and Orpheus Krewe parades in Uptown. I had my picture taken with a Bette Davis look-a-like and then she puked on my shoes. WHAT A DUMP! :biggrin:
Party, party--grab some beads and try to make it home in one piece. There was one stabbing and someone was injured in a shooting while we tried to make our way outta there. My train left at 8:20 this morning so I missed the Krewe of Zulu parade but I was already over it anyway.
I hate to say it, but Mardi Gras just ain't what it used to be. :no:
I don't know T. I think having a Bette Davis look a like, puke on my shoe might be a GOOD TIME!!! :sofa: A stabbing and a shooting? :spooked: Oh HELL YEAH!!! GOOD TIMES!!! :sofa:
:music1: She's got Bette Davis eyes :music1:
Yeah--REAL good times :rolleyes:
Lord, I couldn't live there! Umm Umm :no:
Quote from: tallulahdahling on February 07, 2008, 02:43:08 PM
Yeah--REAL good times :rolleyes:
Lord, I couldn't live there! Umm Umm :no:
It sounds like a hell hole. Katrina really made a mess of things. I've read the crime rate is outta this world now. :no:
Well don't get me wrong--not all of NOLA is a hell hole -- it's just that the areas that were bad before are doubly horrific now! There are some very nice parts of the city that got rebuilt after Katrina but the areas around the Quarter are just now getting some attention.
The 9th Ward is even getting a clean up but no one lives there but gangsters and drug lords. :-\
Quote from: tallulahdahling on February 08, 2008, 02:07:33 PM
Well don't get me wrong--not all of NOLA is a hell hole -- it's just that the areas that were bad before are doubly horrific now! There are some very nice parts of the city that got rebuilt after Katrina but the areas around the Quarter are just now getting some attention.
The 9th Ward is even getting a clean up but no one lives there but gangsters and drug lords. :-\
Wasn't the 9th ward the area hardest by Katrina? If the gangs and drugs are there it might never recover. :no:
Yeah, it was pretty much leveled. The people that owned the property aren't rebuilding and it's impossible to sell so it may just stay as FEMA trailer city :-[
Well, td...I've always told people in discussion that Mardis Gras is a "once in a lifetime" event. At least for me it was. It was VERY disillusioning...being 26 at the time, I felt beyond the "party till you puke" days (a la Bette, huh?) -- but, not quite financially privy to any of the masquerade balls or fanfare for the mature & famous. :biggrin:
That would've been more than a decade before Katrina & I thought the French Quarter et al was a complete dump.
I've never been in such filfth my entire life...
Glad you made it back home safely, dahling. :smitten:
Quote from: tallulahdahling on February 09, 2008, 11:46:38 AM
Yeah, it was pretty much leveled. The people that owned the property aren't rebuilding and it's impossible to sell so it may just stay as FEMA trailer city :-[
Now that's just sad. :'( It will be a constant reminder. :no:
Quote from: Sunny on February 09, 2008, 01:30:21 PM
Well, td...I've always told people in discussion that Mardis Gras is a "once in a lifetime" event. At least for me it was. It was VERY disillusioning...being 26 at the time, I felt beyond the "party till you puke" days (a la Bette, huh?) -- but, not quite financially privy to any of the masquerade balls or fanfare for the mature & famous. :biggrin:
That would've been more than a decade before Katrina & I thought the French Quarter et al was a complete dump.
I've never been in such filfth my entire life...
Glad you made it back home safely, dahling. :smitten:
I know, Sunny. Isn't it sad? The place is so dynamic and has such fabulous history but the crime and filth keep everyone from enjoying it. There used to be a tour of gardens that featured about 20-30 homes but one tour group got robbed at some point and about 20 of the homes pulled out of the tour. :no:
If you are lucky enough to get an invite to a Krewe ball you definitely have to go! We have a local Krewe here that has an annual ball that hubby and I love to attend -- all the crawdads and boudin balls you can eat---soooooo yummy!
I've always wanted to go on one of the Halloween tours that they have annually but not until they clean the place up.
Well this is a sarcastic post in Fun, Fun, Fun!
Last night my Chessie visciously attacked my new puppy, Sadie! :eek: My husband came home from work and found Angie (the Chessie) on top of Sadie in the ditch by out driveway just ferociosly biting her. Luckily she only got to Sadie's feet and leg. He had to fire a shot to separate them!!!
I can't understand it. One minute they're romping around and playing nice and the next minute there's blood! What is Angie's problem?
I am currently changing Sadie's bandages and going to try and get her a VIP pass to our kennel club here. :rolleyes:
Can't they all just get along?????? :-\
Quote from: tallulahdahling on February 20, 2008, 12:08:29 PM
Well this is a sarcastic post in Fun, Fun, Fun!
Last night my Chessie visciously attacked my new puppy, Sadie! :eek: My husband came home from work and found Angie (the Chessie) on top of Sadie in the ditch by out driveway just ferociosly biting her. Luckily she only got to Sadie's feet and leg. He had to fire a shot to separate them!!!
I can't understand it. One minute they're romping around and playing nice and the next minute there's blood! What is Angie's problem?
I am currently changing Sadie's bandages and going to try and get her a VIP pass to our kennel club here. :rolleyes:
Can't they all just get along?????? :-\
I bet Angie is jealous of the new puppy. You need to watch them real careful. They may have just gotten carried away, and misunderstood the others intentions,and it got out of hand. :yes:
Wow, poor Sadie. It's tough being the new kid and you know how girls can be when they get together. I guess dogs can be catty too. :biggrin: Seriously though, that's unusual for a Chessie. They are such friendly and affectionate dogs. Although they're protective too. I wonder if poor lil' Sadie unwittingly did something that Angie perceived to be threatening? Whatever it is, I bet she won't do it anymore. I hope she's feeling better.
Well, hubby is certain Angie came from a puppy mill. She has always been fierce when it comes to protecting her food bowl. Hubby thinks that Angie just grew up having to scrap for everything and being an Alpha dog, she's just that way.
I will have to say that Sadie holds no grudges! I let her out today to get a feel of the situation and she ran right up to Angie like nothing ever happened. I am watching close, however :yes:
Angie is part Lab as well as Chessie. Being part of a puppy mill, she is showing signs of hip dysplasia and is in pain some days. I think Sadie caught her on a day when Angie was hurting and, well you know the rest of the story............. :-\
Oh yeah and that could be it too. Or perhaps while they were rough housing Sadie caught her in a bad spot. Since Benji was attacked, I have to watch him closely, because if another dog goes for his ball, he gets really aggressive. I hate that 'cause he was such a sweet dog before the attack. We're working on it and I hope eventually he turns back into a consistently friendly pup.
Quote from: PIYA on February 21, 2008, 01:19:25 PM
Oh yeah and that could be it too. Or perhaps while they were rough housing Sadie caught her in a bad spot. Since Benji was attacked, I have to watch him closely, because if another dog goes for his ball, he gets really aggressive. I hate that 'cause he was such a sweet dog before the attack. We're working on it and I hope eventually he turns back into a consistently friendly pup.
Yeah, it stinks the way one bad incident can totally change a pet's personality -- as far as the balls or toys go, I always make sure I have a bunch of them on me -- I get the three-packs of toys at Dollar General for a buck--and as long as everyone has a toy or two there's no ruckus.
Right now all three of them are out on the front lawn rolling around in the rain like they're best friends.
I wonder if they make puppy Prosac? LOL