Vents: Random Acts of Venting!

[Sandy Eggo]

Or on the other hand there might be some employee who's responsible for taking care of the carts walking away with your cart grumbling about the customers who leave carts everywhere.     Sorry, that thought just happened to run through my mind. 

LMAO! I thought the same thing. If that's the case, too bad they're not members of the Zone too. This could definitely get interesting.

[Sandy Eggo]

My vent ... sort of...it was actually kinda funny in a pathetic psycho kinda way.....

I had to speak to a co-worker's assistant today about something that she needed to take care of in his absence. There wasn't any ands, ifs or buts about it...it would be her job. I only got involved because I'm senior and act as kind of a teamleader, so it was my responsibility to make her aware of the problem and instruct her to take care of it since  he wasn't there to do so.

Sadly, there are about 10 people who are going to get screwed as a result and her job was to break it to them. While I understand that's an unsavory job, there's nothing we can do about it. The problem came from upper management's management so it's critical and has a lot of visibility.

So, it's an ugly task...no one wants to do it, but it's in HER chain...it has to be done...we work in a downtown office. She goes completely off the deep end. She flipped completely out. The arms started waving, the tears started rolling and she's screaming and cursing at the top of her lungs like someone died. . I suggested that she take a minute and go to the rest room, outside, somewhere and calm down. Big mistake..she grabbed my arm and may as well have been speaking in tongues. I have NO idea what she was saying. Tears and snot flying. Ugh. Finally, when she seemed like she was going to take a breath. I suggested she go home. Which she did. I made the damn calls myself.

[lex]

My vent ... sort of...it was actually kinda funny in a pathetic psycho kinda way.....

I had to speak to a co-worker's assistant today about something that she needed to take care of in his absence. There wasn't any ands, ifs or buts about it...it would be her job. I only got involved because I'm senior and act as kind of a teamleader, so it was my responsibility to make her aware of the problem and instruct her to take care of it since  he wasn't there to do so.

Sadly, there are about 10 people who are going to get screwed as a result and her job was to break it to them. While I understand that's an unsavory job, there's nothing we can do about it. The problem came from upper management's management so it's critical and has a lot of visibility.

So, it's an ugly task...no one wants to do it, but it's in HER chain...it has to be done...we work in a downtown office. She goes completely off the deep end. She flipped completely out. The arms started waving, the tears started rolling and she's screaming and cursing at the top of her lungs like someone died. . I suggested that she take a minute and go to the rest room, outside, somewhere and calm down. Big mistake..she grabbed my arm and may as well have been speaking in tongues. I have NO idea what she was saying. Tears and snot flying. Ugh. Finally, when she seemed like she was going to take a breath. I suggested she go home. Which she did. I made the damn calls myself.

Brilliant way to get out of giving the bad news. 

[tallulahdahling]

Well, at least you now know she has no leadership abilities -- shame you had to be the bad guy, I know how that must have sucked.

Her boss needs to tell her she has to suck it up or get a job collecting shopping carts at Wally World   

[lex]

Her boss needs to tell her she has to suck it.

fixT

[Palehorse]

 

[Sandy Eggo]

Update:

She sheepishly approached me first thing this morning. She apologized for her behavior. I accepted and told her that I understood having a bad day. I also decided this might be a good opportunity to mentor her a bit, so I asked her if I could give her some advice and she nodded. I told her that while I don't think it's a bad thing to personally invest in our work, it's  not good when we can't separate ourselves enough to see that a task is complete. Especially one which had such high visibility. She got misty on me again, not as bad and said that she couldn't bring herself to disappoint the 10 individuals she'd was faced w/calling. That's when I pointed out that it may have gone better had she simply said that rather than flipping out. I wouldn't have minded helping her at all, nor would have anyone else,  but the breakdown set the entire office on edge. Not to mention people from other offices. She said that she knew and could even feel it coming on. I said, the next time you feel it coming on, just excuse yourself and take a break. Go for a walk, go to the ladies room, whatever....

Then she said, well no one really knows, do they? I said, honestly "S" you were pretty loud. I think quite a few people heard. She said, "no, the supervisors, were in a meeting right?". I said "right, but "R" knows". She was instantly angry. "Who told her!". I calmly said, "I did". She glared at me and for a second I thought we were going to have a repeat performance. She asked why and I explained that I  had to because 1) I sent her home and "R" is responsible for the employees,  so it was my responsibility to explain to "R" where she was. I even had to write a chronology for the record. Just to cover everyone's azz. Which I told her and 2)everyone was going to wonder why I did the job she was expected to do. We were required to report the status once it was complete. They were expecting "S" not me.

She's not talking to me now.

[Dexter Morgan]

Update:

She sheepishly approached me first thing this morning. She apologized for her behavior. I accepted and told her that I understood having a bad day. I also decided this might be a good opportunity to mentor her a bit, so I asked her if I could give her some advice and she nodded. I told her that while I don't think it's a bad thing to personally invest in our work, it's  not good when we can't separate ourselves enough to see that a task is complete. Especially one which had such high visibility. She got misty on me again, not as bad and said that she couldn't bring herself to disappoint the 10 individuals she'd was faced w/calling. That's when I pointed out that it may have gone better had she simply said that rather than flipping out. I wouldn't have minded helping her at all, nor would have anyone else,  but the breakdown set the entire office on edge. Not to mention people from other offices. She said that she knew and could even feel it coming on. I said, the next time you feel it coming on, just excuse yourself and take a break. Go for a walk, go to the ladies room, whatever....

Then she said, well no one really knows, do they? I said, honestly "S" you were pretty loud. I think quite a few people heard. She said, "no, the supervisors, were in a meeting right?". I said "right, but "R" knows". She was instantly angry. "Who told her!". I calmly said, "I did". She glared at me and for a second I thought we were going to have a repeat performance. She asked why and I explained that I  had to because 1) I sent her home and "R" is responsible for the employees,  so it was my responsibility to explain to "R" where she was. I even had to write a chronology for the record. Just to cover everyone's azz. Which I told her and 2)everyone was going to wonder why I did the job she was expected to do. We were required to report the status once it was complete. They were expecting "S" not me.

She's not talking to me now.

If I was you, I'd tell her to blow it out of her ass.  She sounds really immature to me. 

[Sandy Eggo]

If I was you, I'd tell her to blow it out of her ass.  She sounds really immature to me. 

She's actually older than me and has been w/this company for a lot longer than I have. I moved w/this company from Baltimore two years ago. Considering her age and how long she's been w/the company she should be senior to me. I don't think that's her problem though. I think it's something going on at home that's manifesting itself in the work place.

[Dexter Morgan]

Here's a good one.... Today I worked with the Bitch Brigade. The head store manger (my boss) and our assistant manager. They were talking, and asked my opinion, on what they said, was a hypothetical question. They asked me, if I thought it was wrong for a woman, to look at her man's cell phone number list, to see who he's in communication with? I said "hell yeah it's wrong, and it shows a lack of trust,and insecurity". My boss got pissed, and went to the office. Come to find out,it wasn't a hypothetical question after all. My boss actually did this to her man.  And they argued about it. Dex doesn't pull any punches, and obviously she was looking for approval, and she knew it was the wrong thing to do. Why do people ask questions, if they can't handle the truth? Her man would really shit, if he knew she ransacked his apartment last week,and looked at all of his personal papers.  See, I told you she's a psycho.  BTW....She only worked me for 2hrs 45mins. 

[lex]

My mini vent is its a lonely holiday season for me. The divorce was in January of this year and it will be the first year of being alone. Heartache I have found is physical and hurts deeper than any wound I have ever suffered.

I refuse to hate. I forgive and keep forgiving. Perhaps someday, I will find peace.

[lex]

Here's a good one.... Today I worked with the Bitch Brigade. The head store manger (my boss) and our assistant manager. They were talking, and asked my opinion, on what they said, was a hypothetical question. They asked me, if I thought it was wrong for a woman, to look at her man's cell phone number list, to see who he's in communication with? I said "hell yeah it's wrong, and it shows a lack of trust,and insecurity". My boss got pissed, and went to the office. Come to find out,it wasn't a hypothetical question after all. My boss actually did this to her man.  And they argued about it. Dex doesn't pull any punches, and obviously she was looking for approval, and she knew it was the wrong thing to do. Why do people ask questions, if they can't handle the truth? Her man would really shit, if he knew she ransacked his apartment last week,and looked at all of his personal papers.  See, I told you she's a psycho.  BTW....She only worked me for 2hrs 45mins. 

Spouses can be dirty rotten cheating dogs and if one thinks they are screwing around, then by all means it's fair to find out WTF they are up to. After all, cheaters deserve no mercy. They burn their mates in so many ways it's sickening. I have had it happen to me, and I have seen it happen to soooo many others.

I worked as a private eye when I was younger. Cheating spouses was one thing we worked on to prove one way or another. If one suspects, its good to know either way. It might be painful or it might bring a world of relief and an end to mental anguish.

If you haven't had some sneaky rat of a mate cheat on you, then don't judge people who are going through it. It makes sane people real nuts real fast.

[me]

My mini vent is its a lonely holiday season for me. The divorce was in January of this year and it will be the first year of being alone. Heartache I have found is physical and hurts deeper than any wound I have ever suffered.

I refuse to hate. I forgive and keep forgiving. Perhaps someday, I will find peace.

You could try what I did on my first year.  I planned a special day for myself.  Picked out a couple of movies I had been wanting to see and fixed myself a Cornish game hen with all the trimmings (one person servings though), except cranberry sauce which I don't like, and me, myself, and I had a great day. I also did the same for Christmas except I fixed a small ham.  I kept my mind on the fact that it was a special day for me to do what ever I wanted, I didn't have to go to work or do anything I didn't want to do and I made it through it. 

[Sandy Eggo]

You could try what I did on my first year.  I planned a special day for myself.  Picked out a couple of movies I had been wanting to see and fixed myself a Cornish game hen with all the trimmings (one person servings though), except cranberry sauce which I don't like, and me, myself, and I had a great day. I also did the same for Christmas except I fixed a small ham.  I kept my mind on the fact that it was a special day for me to do what ever I wanted, I didn't have to go to work or do anything I didn't want to do and I made it through it. 

me that's a very positive attitude!

[Palehorse]

lex: Been there a couple of times myself. Fortunately I had some close friends upon whom I leaned during those times. You might consider asking some of your friends what their plans are and try to invite some of them over for a turkey holocaust dinner you all whip up. Or do like "me" says in a previous post. That's a great idea.

Divorce is hard, but you have to move forward. Know that what you currently feel (forgiveness) is a stage, and at some point you may feel resentful/angry in its place. Prepare for this and develop a contingency plan to deal with it when it comes. (Vacation, trip out of town, some kind of event that will take your mind away from the anger).

GET YOUR REST! Individuals in your position are at high risk of developing depression, and it can sneak up on you before you know it. Go to sleep early if you have to, just make sure you get at least 8 hours of sleep every night. Do not deviate from this if at all possible. Sleep deprivation is a large contributor to depression. Exercise helps as well, just make sure you complete whatever regmine you choose at least 4 hours before it is time to sleep. Don't do it any later than this.

Stay off the booze/drugs/caffeine. Find something you have a passion for (hobby) and get into it every chance you get. Keep busy! And if you have some things on your mind, call on us. We'll be more than happy to help you anyway we can!