Random Comments (RH)

[Locutus]

We're starting the process of building a mother-in-law quarters onto the house for the gf's mom whose eyesight is failing.  Today they came out and took out 3 big shade trees.  We should make a pool to see how long it takes for this to go from the Random Comments thread to Random Acts of Venting.  LOL...

Indeed!  It won't be long I'm sure. 

[me]

We're starting the process of building a mother-in-law quarters onto the house for the gf's mom whose eyesight is failing.  Today they came out and took out 3 big shade trees.  We should make a pool to see how long it takes for this to go from the Random Comments thread to Random Acts of Venting.  LOL...

I would say day 2 of the contractors starting, day 3 if they're good.  Seems like no matter how good the contractor is there's always something they either want to change or they say can't or shouldn't be done. 

[Henry Hawk]

Well have you checked your blood pressure today? 

[The Troll]

I would say day 2 of the contractors starting, day 3 if they're good.  Seems like no matter how good the contractor is there's always something they either want to change or they say can't or shouldn't be done.

  Just saying, wouldn't it be better for your mother and yourself, cheaper, if you put your mother in assisted living than in your home 24/7.

  Tho I loved my mother, we could not, as adults lived together 24/7.  She would be out of your hair and with friends of her own age.

  Good luck. 

[Exterminator]

  Just saying, wouldn't it be better for your mother and yourself, cheaper, if you put your mother in assisted living than in your home 24/7.

  Tho I loved my mother, we could not, as adults lived together 24/7.  She would be out of your hair and with friends of her own age.

  Good luck. 

No, warehousing her is not an option.  She is family and it is our responsibility to take care of her.  Besides, we like having her around!

Assisted living is a racket anyway and would end up costing more by the time they bleed her for everything she's worth.

[me]

No, warehousing her is not an option.  She is family and it is our responsibility to take care of her.  Besides, we like having her around!

Assisted living is a racket anyway and would end up costing more by the time they bleed her for everything she's worth.

She is lucky to have you both Ex. For all of your sakes I hope the construction goes smoothly and the move can happen quickly with little or no stress involved. 

[Henry Hawk]

No, warehousing her is not an option.  She is family and it is our responsibility to take care of her.  Besides, we like having her around!

Assisted living is a racket anyway and would end up costing more by the time they bleed her for everything she's worth.

Man!  You actually seem to have a soul!!!  and...............even a .........NICE GUY!!!   

We would have done the same for my mother-in-law, but my sister-in-law already had a place that was accomadating for her.  I think the world of my MIL.

[Exterminator]

Man!  You actually seem to have a soul!!!  and...............even a .........NICE GUY!!!   

Please don't tell anyone; it'll ruin my street cred.   

The gf and her mom are the only family either of them have left and they're close.  The gf's dad was the 54th American to die in the Vietnam War when he was shot down when she was still a baby.  Her stepdad died a few years ago and the MIL has been spending 1/3 or more of her time here anyway.  This works out well for everyone as it eliminates the constant trips back and forth to Plymouth, where she now lives and where most of her friends have either passed on or moved away, and gives her her own place where she's close by.

We tried to buy the house next door but the neighbor wouldn't sell so we just decided to build what essentially amounts to another house onto ours.  It's a big project...1,600 sq ft and will include its own full sized kitchen, a great room, 2 bedrooms (she will use one as a den), a laundry room and a large bath, all wheelchair accessible should she ever need one (the grandmother passed away several years ago at 101 so the old gal might be around for another 25 years).  Like I said, another house complete with it's own entrance aside from the hall that will connect our side to hers, furnace, A/C, water heater, etc.

I doubt the process will be stress free but hopefully it'll go as smoothly as possible and we'll have her here semi-permanently by fall and be able to put the property in Plymouth on the market by next spring.  She will lose the ability to walk out her back door to the golf course's fourth tee but she can't see where the balls go when she hits them any more anyway so...lol...

I'll keep you posted...brick is supposed to start coming off the end of the house later this week and digging for the foundation should start next  week...yikes! 

[me]

Please don't tell anyone; it'll ruin my street cred.   

The gf and her mom are the only family either of them have left and they're close.  The gf's dad was the 54th American to die in the Vietnam War when he was shot down when she was still a baby.  Her stepdad died a few years ago and the MIL has been spending 1/3 or more of her time here anyway.  This works out well for everyone as it eliminates the constant trips back and forth to Plymouth, where she now lives and where most of her friends have either passed on or moved away, and gives her her own place where she's close by.

We tried to buy the house next door but the neighbor wouldn't sell so we just decided to build what essentially amounts to another house onto ours.  It's a big project...1,600 sq ft and will include its own full sized kitchen, a great room, 2 bedrooms (she will use one as a den), a laundry room and a large bath, all wheelchair accessible should she ever need one (the grandmother passed away several years ago at 101 so the old gal might be around for another 25 years).  Like I said, another house complete with it's own entrance aside from the hall that will connect our side to hers, furnace, A/C, water heater, etc.

I doubt the process will be stress free but hopefully it'll go as smoothly as possible and we'll have her here semi-permanently by fall and be able to put the property in Plymouth on the market by next spring.  She will lose the ability to walk out her back door to the golf course's fourth tee but she can't see where the balls go when she hits them any more anyway so...lol...

I'll keep you posted...brick is supposed to start coming off the end of the house later this week and digging for the foundation should start next  week...yikes! 

Isn't that what the caddy is for?  Seriously though, I know she'll probably miss that but there are so many pluses she should settle in fairly quickly and find other things to take the place of the golf course.

[Exterminator]

Isn't that what the caddy is for?  Seriously though, I know she'll probably miss that but there are so many pluses she should settle in fairly quickly and find other things to take the place of the golf course.

She has lots of interests; she'll be fine here with plenty to do.

And uh, wow...look who this guy is growing up to be at 11 months...

[me]

She has lots of interests; she'll be fine here with plenty to do.

And uh, wow...look who this guy is growing up to be at 11 months...

Looks like you have done a great job with him.  I see trusting and happiness in his eyes now.  He looks truly content. 

[Henry Hawk]

Please don't tell anyone; it'll ruin my street cred.   

The gf and her mom are the only family either of them have left and they're close.  The gf's dad was the 54th American to die in the Vietnam War when he was shot down when she was still a baby.  Her stepdad died a few years ago and the MIL has been spending 1/3 or more of her time here anyway.  This works out well for everyone as it eliminates the constant trips back and forth to Plymouth, where she now lives and where most of her friends have either passed on or moved away, and gives her her own place where she's close by.

We tried to buy the house next door but the neighbor wouldn't sell so we just decided to build what essentially amounts to another house onto ours.  It's a big project...1,600 sq ft and will include its own full sized kitchen, a great room, 2 bedrooms (she will use one as a den), a laundry room and a large bath, all wheelchair accessible should she ever need one (the grandmother passed away several years ago at 101 so the old gal might be around for another 25 years).  Like I said, another house complete with it's own entrance aside from the hall that will connect our side to hers, furnace, A/C, water heater, etc.

I doubt the process will be stress free but hopefully it'll go as smoothly as possible and we'll have her here semi-permanently by fall and be able to put the property in Plymouth on the market by next spring.  She will lose the ability to walk out her back door to the golf course's fourth tee but she can't see where the balls go when she hits them any more anyway so...lol...

I'll keep you posted...brick is supposed to start coming off the end of the house later this week and digging for the foundation should start next  week...yikes! 

My dad, five years ago, decided to see his place and take the money to build something at my sisters house.  They offered of course. My sister does not work and wanted to be there for my dad.  We end up building a "replica" floor plan of his house, on the back of my BIL and Sisters garage.  The living room is the same size, windows in the same place, the furniture is the same, walls the same color.  His kitchen was built in the same location, just as his bathroom and bedroom are.  We didn't build a family room, but other than that, it is like he NEVER left his house.  My sister is there 24/7 to help him out, take him to the doctor, get groceries and whatever he needs.  He pays her a little cash, but not much.  It is a win/win for him and her.  They can utlize the space for a "day care" when dad passes on...something my sister has been thinking about doing for a long time now.  Dad is 90, moves slow, but is loving it.

[Exterminator]

Looks like you have done a great job with him.  I see trusting and happiness in his eyes now.  He looks truly content.

He was standing in his baby pool when I took that.   

[me]

He was standing in his baby pool when I took that.   

I thought he looked wet....LOL

[Anne]

My dad, five years ago, decided to see his place and take the money to build something at my sisters house.  They offered of course. My sister does not work and wanted to be there for my dad.  We end up building a "replica" floor plan of his house, on the back of my BIL and Sisters garage.  The living room is the same size, windows in the same place, the furniture is the same, walls the same color.  His kitchen was built in the same location, just as his bathroom and bedroom are.  We didn't build a family room, but other than that, it is like he NEVER left his house.  My sister is there 24/7 to help him out, take him to the doctor, get groceries and whatever he needs.  He pays her a little cash, but not much.  It is a win/win for him and her.  They can utlize the space for a "day care" when dad passes on...something my sister has been thinking about doing for a long time now.  Dad is 90, moves slow, but is loving it.

That is really a great idea, building a replica of your dad's house. I bet that made him feel right at home from the start.