yesterday was the saddest day in vxn history.

[~vxn~]

thanks for the words, kids.

[Dexter Morgan]

~vxn~ this is late, I just now saw this. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. 

[~vxn~]

thank you, dex. 

[Dexter Morgan]

thank you, dex. 

I hope everybody in your family is doing OK. It's always bad when a child dies. That's not how it's suppose to work. The elderly die.... not children. I'm sure you being there is a  great comfort to Mom. Some things in life seem so senseless. 

[kimmi]

vxn, I'm very sorry  for your loss.  You will all be in my thoughts. 

[~vxn~]

thank you.

it is still pretty rough.  my mom tried to imply that my sister let him die.  (we had a DNR--but it was amended.  it he looked like he was going to make it or try to breathe--then help him.  if not--don't torture him.  let him sleep in peace.)  my sister was distraught.  i was able ot reason with her and talk her down--there was nothing that could be done--she did all she could and tried everything so he could have a chance to live. 

my mother is not a mother.  she is a women who had children.  there is a difference.

[Dexter Morgan]

thank you.

it is still pretty rough.  my mom tried to imply that my sister let him die.  (we had a DNR--but it was amended.  it he looked like he was going to make it or try to breathe--then help him.  if not--don't torture him.  let him sleep in peace.)  my sister was distraught.  i was able ot reason with her and talk her down--there was nothing that could be done--she did all she could and tried everything so he could have a chance to live. 

my mother is not a mother.  she is a women who had children.  there is a difference.

You're right... a huge difference. I think your sister did the right thing. Suffering should never be prolonged when the outlook is that dismal. Pardon me for saying so but.... your Mom needs to butt out. Her being like that towards your sister is doing nothing but hurting her at a horrible time.It's time for healing not pouring salt in the wounds. 

[~vxn~]

my sister thinks our mother is just trying to push her to suicide.  think of all the pity my mother could get then!  the loss of a grandchild, then his grief-stricken mother! 

i've never wanted to punch someone so bad in all my life.

[me]

I'm glad your sister is aware of whats going on and hope she can hold up.  My heart goes out to both of you. {{{HUGS}}}}

[~vxn~]

ty, me.

[Dexter Morgan]

my sister thinks our mother is just trying to push her to suicide.  think of all the pity my mother could get then!  the loss of a grandchild, then his grief-stricken mother! 

i've never wanted to punch someone so bad in all my life.

That would make me soooo mad!!!  It's horrible that she has a sick desire, to garner attention for herself  that way. My Mom wants everybody to pity her too. Of course my Mom IS mentally ill. So, I guess it's more acceptable. I dunno... but you need to keep your Mom away from your sister that's for sure. Your sister is in an emotional place, where she could be easily pushed over the edge. We don't want that to happen.  I hate to say this but your Mom sounds mentally poisonous to you girls, and your brother too. How is he doing by the way? 

[~vxn~]

the one bro that got away is doing great--wife, baby, 2 step sons.  the one she has her clutches in is doing terribly.  can't work, can't keep a girl, she sucks the life out of him. 

no matter what my mother does--she never takes responsibility. 

she tried telling my sister that the baby was bleeding from the neck/throat.  and that maybe god was trying to give him a way to breathe.  i had that baby naked.  i put a diaper and jammie on him.  he wasn't bleeding from anywhere.  he was a precious eternally sleeping angel.  my sister took that hard.  she knew her baby wasn't bleeding--she was just appauled that my mother would say that. 

my mother is toxic.  i have known that since childhood.  we were born orphans.

[Dexter Morgan]

the one bro that got away is doing great--wife, baby, 2 step sons.  the one she has her clutches in is doing terribly.  can't work, can't keep a girl, she sucks the life out of him. 

no matter what my mother does--she never takes responsibility. 

she tried telling my sister that the baby was bleeding from the neck/throat.  and that maybe god was trying to give him a way to breathe.  i had that baby naked.  i put a diaper and jammie on him.  he wasn't bleeding from anywhere.  he was a precious eternally sleeping angel.  my sister took that hard.  she knew her baby wasn't bleeding--she was just appauled that my mother would say that. 

my mother is toxic.  i have known that since childhood.  we were born orphans.

What a horrible thing for her to tell your sister.  She's very sick and should get some mental help ASAP. I feel sooo bad for you guys.  It's no wonder your brother can't keep it together. Being around her all the time when she's like that is almost mental abuse. Poor guy, maybe someday he will be free of her grip. Wasn't she in poor health a while back? I think at the time, he was having a bad time, with accepting the fact that she could die? Maybe, I'm remembering wrong?