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Started by BEG, September 21, 2006, 10:52:14 AM

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Sunny

#15
October 02, 2006, 05:12:20 PM
Doh! Still running in SLOW mode...I'll get it next time around! :biggrin:

BEG

#16
October 05, 2006, 09:15:22 AM
Last night's DivorceCare session was about depression, which I found out that this summer I was an expert on.

But I honestly think I've turned the corner - not that I won't have bad days, but I'm gonna have some pretty awesome days too.  :yes: I have to keep looking to the future in hope and not dwell on my past.
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

~Daisy~

#17
October 05, 2006, 01:17:40 PM
I hope you are keeping track of your emotional progress somewhere, like a diary or a personal blog. I think its healthy to do that, and every month go back and re-read everything and see how much you've changed. I've done that, and sometimes still go back and read things from years ago, and think "wow, when was I ever like that?"
If you don't like what you're doing, you can always pick up your needle and move to another groove.
--Timothy Leary

Fatcats Mom

#18
October 05, 2006, 05:09:03 PM
I write every day in a notebook. I write without thinking. I go back and sometimes laugh at myself.....It's a blast!

Cookie Parker

#19
October 08, 2006, 05:56:52 PM
Quote from: Fatcats Mom on October 05, 2006, 05:09:03 PM
I write every day in a notebook. I write without thinking. I go back and sometimes laugh at myself.....It's a blast!

And a great catharsis, too.....did I spell that correctly?  Yup...and according to merriam-webster online it means this:

1 : PURGATION
2 a : purification or purgation of the emotions (as pity and fear) primarily through art b : a purification or purgation that brings about spiritual renewal or release from tension
3 : elimination of a complex by bringing it to consciousness and affording it expression    


Just free writing allows your complex thoughts to come to the surface...it's like "talking outloud" but writing it eliminates everyone else from thinking  you're crazy...which is okay, unless you're walking down an alley late at night and someone is approaching...LOL!!! Just "free writing here"...gotcha ;)

One thing I am sure, BEG, is being gone over is your responsibility for the failed relationship.  I hope.  I think people who divorce and don't see where they went wrong in a relationship are forever doomed to repeat the mistakes of the past....and continue failing in relationships forever....at least, that's what I see as my daily routine...looking at myself for my failings, as well as those around me...
Alan Cohen:

    It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.

BEG

#20
October 09, 2006, 09:11:19 AM
Quote from: Cookie Parker on October 08, 2006, 05:56:52 PM

One thing I am sure, BEG, is being gone over is your responsibility for the failed relationship.  I hope.  I think people who divorce and don't see where they went wrong in a relationship are forever doomed to repeat the mistakes of the past....and continue failing in relationships forever....at least, that's what I see as my daily routine...looking at myself for my failings, as well as those around me...

Right, CP. I accept responsibilty for my portion of the failed relationship. This is the adult thing to do. That however does not mean that I am a failure - the relationship is. And I shouldn't dwell constantly on my mistakes. I've been adviced to review them make the necessary changes and move forward. Sounds simple but it is a struggle sometimes.
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

BEG

#21
October 16, 2006, 11:08:11 AM
We are signing the divorce papers today and having them notarized and taking them to the county clerks office! 
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

Fatcats Mom

#22
October 16, 2006, 12:02:23 PM
Good Luck BEG.....My thoughts are with you.

BEG

#23
October 16, 2006, 12:38:20 PM
Thank you FCM. It's been a long and tediuos process, but this is best for all of us.
I'm just happy we are parting as friends. It makes is soooo much easier for Lil BEG.  :yes:
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

pariann

#24
November 22, 2006, 12:01:31 PM
So how have the sessions gone over the last month?
Looks like I've come full circle.

BEG

#25
November 22, 2006, 01:49:55 PM
It's been okay. It's been about seeking new relationships, sexuality after the divorce and forgiving your spouse so you can move on.
I think I'm tired of the process - or maybe I'm just tired period. I know that I'm ready for next Wed. which is the last night.  :smile:
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

pariann

#26
November 22, 2006, 01:51:36 PM
You probably are already where you are supposed to be, and maybe feel that they can't tell you anything more than what you already feel and think for yourself.
Looks like I've come full circle.

BEG

#27
November 22, 2006, 02:00:03 PM
Quote from: pariann on November 22, 2006, 01:51:36 PM
You probably are already where you are supposed to be, and maybe feel that they can't tell you anything more than what you already feel and think for yourself.

Yep, I think that is true.  :wink:
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

~Daisy~

#28
November 22, 2006, 04:44:44 PM
I'm glad to hear you are doing well, BEG. We need to get out again soon!
If you don't like what you're doing, you can always pick up your needle and move to another groove.
--Timothy Leary

Sunny

#29
December 21, 2006, 10:38:05 AM
Quote from: BEG on November 22, 2006, 01:49:55 PM
It's been okay. It's been about seeking new relationships, sexuality after the divorce and forgiving your spouse so you can move on.
I think I'm tired of the process - or maybe I'm just tired period. I know that I'm ready for next Wed. which is the last night.  :smile:


Out of curiosity, what's their approach to this, BEG?? Are these exclusively romantic relationships, or ANY? I.E. Suggested timeframe to entering into a new one.

At any rate, GOOD FOR YOU for sticking with these classes!!
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