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Started by BEG, September 20, 2006, 03:54:05 PM

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BEG

September 20, 2006, 03:54:05 PM
I had a good appointment today with my therapist.
One 'assignment' that she gave was to go alone to a restaurant or coffee house (not a bar). I am not suppose to sit in a corner but out in the open. :-\  For some odd reason just the thought of doing this makes me very anxious. I hope I don't have an anxiety attak in the middle of Starbucks or Apple Bees.

Wish me luck.  :o
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

MAK

#1
September 20, 2006, 03:56:08 PM
Wow that's very interesting BEG- I think I would be feeling anxious too! What is the idea behind the exercise? Is it a getting comfortable with yourself thing?

BEG

#2
September 20, 2006, 04:07:40 PM
Yeah, working on my self-worth and confidence and that it's okay to be alone in a public place.
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

Sunny

#3
September 20, 2006, 06:55:49 PM
You can DO IT, BEG!  Any other parameters? (e.g. can you take a book?) -- that always does the trick for me...a book, newspaper, journal -- something to occupy your time & make yourself have that extra comfort.

FWIW...best of luck.  :smile:

Sandy Eggo

#4
September 21, 2006, 08:27:31 AM
Yes BEG, you can do it and I know you'll be successful. I have faith in you. Sunny has some awesome ideas.  Remember, head up, chest out...you are not only all that AND a bag of chips..you've got the brownie too!  :smile:


Quick story, my daughter and I were talking about something that she was a lil' nervous about and at the end of the conversation I said the same thing to her..."Remember, you're all that and a bag of chips" and she said, "No mom..I'm all that, a bag of chips and a brownie" and it made me smile, because she got it. Always be proud of yourself. You're not perfect and not like anyone else, but you're damn good. :wink:
Only after the last tree has been cut down. Only after the last river has been poisoned. Only after the last fish has been caught. Only then will you find that money cannot be eaten. - -Cree Indian Prophecy

"Women who strive to be equal to men lack ambitition" -- anonymous

Magistrate

#5
September 21, 2006, 10:13:07 AM
As for your self-worth BEG; you are priceless, my friend! :wink: Just remember, "I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me". :smile: I agree with MsM, that Sunny had some great ideas. The guys would certainly like the "chest out" part, :eek: but a purty smile will melt hearts! The Red Haired-Girl got mine that way! :smitten:  You will do just fine! :yes:
Something to Consider! God Bless!

Fatcats Mom

#6
September 21, 2006, 10:28:02 AM
Update BEG, tell us how wonderful you did?

IYT

#7
September 21, 2006, 10:28:43 AM
That is something I would be very anxious about.  I see people by themselves in restaurants all the time and think nothing of it.  I don't know why it's such a big deal for me.
"Goatboy's personal favorite, the peach under pear imagery which Monet used to such good affect in his blue ball period . C'mer my little fruit basket "-Bill Hicks

cachegurl

#8
September 21, 2006, 10:32:40 AM
You can do it, BEG!!! I used to be the same way, but now I actually enjoy it, especially when I take lunch at work. It's relaxing to me to go to a restaurant alone, take a book or something with me and enjoy the peace and quiet. It really helps me to unwind a little bit from the hectic pace at work. When I first started it, I would look around thinking everyone was watching me, but now I really don't care if they are or not.  ;D

:thumbsup: You can do it!!!!
Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today.~~James Dean

Fatcats Mom

#9
September 21, 2006, 10:38:15 AM
I was also afraid to try it, but like BEG it became my homework. The book really helps, I always have it in hand like a security blanket.

BEG

#10
September 21, 2006, 10:45:40 AM
I've not been out yet to test my wings yet. I'm thinking about Saturday. Lil BEG has a show choir retreat and will be gone all day.  :-\
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

Fatcats Mom

#11
September 21, 2006, 10:50:12 AM
You can do it girl.............Hang strong...........Don't think about it to much...........Just get errrrr done! :wings:

Sunny

#12
September 22, 2006, 07:59:31 AM
You'll do great...have faith in yourself & what a wonderful person you are.

BEG

#13
September 22, 2006, 08:31:45 AM
I went to Panera yesterday a little before 6:00. I had a sandwhich, chips and tea. After I got seated it became very busy - rush hour. There were others sitting there alone that I wouldn't have even made a mental note about if I weren't going through this myself.
I finished my sandwhich, got out my book and began to read. Lil BEG called me about an hour later (she was with a friend) and told me what she wanted for dinner.  Overall it was an okay experience.

Tomorrow morning I take Lil BEG to an all day show choir retreat, so I think after I drop her off in the morning I'm going to go into Starbucks and order my favorite Vanilla Frap and read the morning paper. Then go work off the calories at the fitness club I joined last month.

I'm just taking baby steps. But I'm okay as long as I keep moving.
Life is a test,
Life is a trust.

Fatcats Mom

#14
September 22, 2006, 09:30:19 AM
Congrats BEG, I bet it felt great as you walked out the door, bet you felt stronger and even had a smile on your face. :smile:

Tomorrow make that a X-large cup, you achived your goal ahead of schedule. :clap:

From someone who has been there and done that, I'd say you have aced your homework.


Stand proud.....It took guts.
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